Hello world!

About us:

Here at Dad’s Are Parents, Too my goal is to create a space for parents, probably mostly dads (as the name suggests), who are struggling to have time with their children and to have the full rights that they should have as a parent following a difficult divorce or breakup. The focus is on dad’s mostly, as many states have a reputation for giving preference to the mother when it comes to custody matters. Virginia is just such a state and I hope that, through documenting experiences in my divorce and post-divorce battle, others can learn from me and maybe not make some of the mistakes that I feel that I made before, during, and after divorce proceedings. 

I am still in the trenches, so, I hope to learn from you, too.

One of the biggest take-aways that I have learned, one that I’ll share right here and now, is that no matter how good it feels to be out of a toxic marriage or relationship, if kids are involved you have to handle the breakup with an emotional detachment that is antithetical to the emotion and love that is you associate with our child(ren).  In short, if you make emotional decisions in your divorce (and lets face it, family law attorneys get rich by feeding off the emotional parents going through divorce), you open yourself to being taken advantage of by a more cold and calculating ex-spouse/partner, lawyers, and

My hope is that this will be a community for parents to share their experiences regarding what worked and what didn’t work.

Just to be clear, this site provides no legal advice. 

Rather, I hope it becomes a place to share thoughts, learn from others in similar situations, maybe acquire helpful resources, and to ultimately be a source of hope for those who love their kid(s) and are looking for a more active role in their live(s).